Prediction criteria of mate selection base on marital satisfaction, and mutual popularity of parents

Subject Areas : Psychology of couples

Farzaneh Pourrazi ¹ , Zahra Naghsh ² , Ghorban Hemmati alamdarloo ³ , Mohammadreza Bardidej ⁴

1 - PhD student in Measurement and Measurement, University of Tehran, Kish International Campus. [e-mail]
2 - Associate Professor, Department of Psychology, University of Tehran, Tehran, Iran. (Corresponding author): [e-mail], Tel: [phone]
3 - Professor, Department of Psychology and Education of Exceptional Children, Shiraz University, Shiraz, Iran. [e-mail]
4 - Assistant Professor, Department of Psychology, Islamic Azad University, Firuzabad Branch, Firuzabad, Iran. [e-mail]

Received: 2024-12-14 Accepted : 2025-01-21 Published : 2025-06-22

Keywords: criteria for choosing a spouse, Marital satisfaction, mutual popularity of parents ,

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Abstract

Introduction: One of the variables that is considered before the start of married life and is related to the subsequent performance of couples is the criteria for choosing a spouse. The aim of the present study was to predict the criteria for choosing a spouse of young people on the verge of marriage based on marital satisfaction and mutual popularity of parents. Research method: The research method was descriptive-correlation and the statistical population was all students aged 18 to 30 on the verge of marriage at universities in Shiraz and their parents. 300 of them were selected by multi-stage cluster sampling method and were evaluated by the Afrouz Marital Satisfaction Scale; Asadi and Afrouz Parental Popularity Scale; and the Welfare Criteria for Choosing a Spouse Questionnaire (2008). The research data were analyzed using SPSS software and Pearson correlation and stepwise regression methods. Findings: The findings showed that there was a significant positive relationship (p<0.05) between all components of marital satisfaction and parental popularity with content and process criteria for mate selection. Also, the findings from regression analysis showed that the three components of financial affairs and economic activities, parenting method, and mother's popularity were the best predictors of content criteria, and the components of mother's popularity, spiritual feelings and behavior, and communication and social behaviors were the best predictors of process criteria for mate selection. Conclusion: The results showed that family functioning, especially marital satisfaction and mutual popularity of parents, play a special role in the criteria for mate selection of young people.

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