Comparison of self-sacrifice perception, Fear of Missing Out, cognitive jealousy, self-silence, and fear of self in women with and without infidelity experiences

Subject Areas : Woman and Society

seyyed mehdi sarkeshikiyan ¹ , Mehsa Sadat Sarkeshikiyan ² , zahra mohamadi ³

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2 - Department of General Psychology, Faculty of Psychology, Kashan Branch, Islamic Azad University, Kashan, Iran
3 - Master of General Psychology, Department of General Psychology, Islamic Azad University, Tafresh Branch, Tafresh, Iran

Received: 2025-02-21 Accepted : 2025-06-30 Published : 2025-10-11

Keywords: Perception of self-sacrifice, Fear of Missing Out, cognitive jealousy, self-silence and fear of self, women, infidelity,

Abstract :

Introduction: The present study aimed to compare the self-sacrifice perception, Fear of Missing Out, cognitive jealousy, self-silence, and fear of self in women with and without infidelity. This study is a descriptive study with a causal-comparative design

Methods: The statistical population was all women with and without infidelity who referred to counseling and psychotherapy centers in Qom province in 2024. In each group, 35 people (35 people in the infidelity group, 35 people in the normal group) were replaced, for a total of 70 people. In this study, the sampling method was available. Participants answered the Przybylski Fear of Missing Out Questionnaire (FOMO), Perception of Self-Sacrifice Questionnaire (PSBM), Cognitive Jealousy Questionnaire (MJS), self-silence Questionnaire (STSS), and Fear of Self Questionnaire (FSQ) and demographic questions. The data were analyzed using multivariate analysis of variance (MANOVA) using SPSS-26 software.

Findings: The results showed that women with infidelity experience a lower level of self-sacrifice perception (p <0/001) and a higher level of Fear of Missing Out, cognitive jealousy, self-silence, and fear of self (p <0/001) compared to those without infidelity. Therefore, the experience of infidelity in women can be associated with the emergence and intensification of Fear of Missing Out, cognitive jealousy, self-silence, and self-fear, and a decrease in their self-sacrifice perception.

 Conclusion: Based on the findings, it is essential to seriously consider the design and implementation of appropriate programs aimed at improving the psychological well-being of women who have experienced infidelity, alongside other interventions to promote their mental health.

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