The role of spouse’s personality traits in the emergence of marital challenges and conflicts and dysfunctional and un sustainable marriages

Subject Areas : Journal of Excellence in counseling and psychotherapy

Talat Ahangar ¹ , ahmad borjali ² , Mehdi Davaei ³

1 - PhD student, Counseling Department, Central Tehran Branch, Islamic Azad University, Tehran, Iran
2 - Professor, Department of Psychology, Allameh Tabatabai University, Tehran, Iran
3 - Assistant Professor, Department of Psychology, Central Tehran Branch, Islamic Azad University, Tehran, Iran

Received: 2023-06-08 Accepted : 2023-09-17 Published : 2023-08-23

Keywords: personality characteristics, , , , challenges, , marital conflicts, , dysfunctional and un sustainable marriage, , spouses,

Abstract :

Several factors threaten marital relations and cause the couple’s intimacy to wear out, which ultimately lead the spouses to the occurrence of marital conflicts. Therefore,the current research was conducted with the aim of identifying the factors of the formation of marital conflicts in dysfunctions in dysfunctional and un sustainable marriages.The method of this research was qualitative and the foundation data method.The study population included 20 premarital, family and couple counselors and psychologists in Tehran who had at least five years of counseling experience.The participants were and accessible sampling.The analysis of the interviews led to the identification of 4 open codes and central codes and the selected code “marital challenges and conflicts and dysfunctional and un sustainable marriage”.Data analysis showed that multifaceted factors play arole in marital conflicts. Individual factors (characteristics),communication, main family pattern and satisfaction of basic needs are among the desired factors. The strategies extracted from the research,in order to prevent marital conflicts, the main family model should be modified for this purpose, the patterns of attachment and privacy of the husband and wife system should be taken into consideration.The result obtained from the research be the personality traits of irresponsibility pessimism,aloofness,instability,dominance,lack of agreement and mutual understanding,and narcissism-communication skills(problem solving skills,lack of conflict resolution skills)play a negative role in marital interactions and cause the accumulation of unpleasant feelings,anger and helplessness impulsiveness, and as a result,marital conflicts are formed.Paying attention to personality traits and teaching practical communication skills before marriage have been effective factors on the quality of couples’ interactions.